Bring Your Best BJ Skills!

What makes a good blowjob? You might think it’s all about fancy techniques or deep throating, but a great blowjob is more than that!

Porn tends to emphasize deep throating and gagging as characteristics of hot oral sex. You might enjoy this - but if you don’t, it doesn’t mean you aren’t going to give amazing blowjobs. Porn is performance, so it shows us extreme versions of what is possible with oral sex. In reality, learning pleasure-focused techniques, practicing communication and showing enthusiasm are what make oral sex hot.

Here are some of penis hot spots you want to focus your attention on:

Glans

There are lots of nerve ends on the 'tip' or head of the penis. Try going from a hovering mouth with hot breath on the tip, to light swirls with your tongue, to soft kisses and finally to wrapping your mouth around the head.

Frenulum

This is the most sensitive spot. It is on the underside of the glans and looks like a 'V' in circumsized and uncircumsized penises. Try massaging it with a flat tongue or adding extra pressure with your bottom lip along it as you suck on the head

Penis crown

The rim on the underside of the tip is very sensitive and can be a spot to directly stimulate with fingers or your tongue

Testicles

The balls are generally pretty sensitive, go slow and invite your partner to give direction.

Try these 8 techniques for hotter blowjobs:

Use your lips, tongue and cheeks. Try variations like swirling your tongue on hot spots, pulling up with your lips or bumping the head of the penis into your cheek.
Try hand and mouth combo techniques. Deep throating is part fantasy and part sensation of being ‘contained’ in a warm, wet place. Lube up your hands and create a continuous column from your mouth to your hand wrapped around the penis. Move up and down together or move your hand and mouth in opposite directions.
Change up positions. Play with different body positions for giver and receiver and even consider location - blow job in the shower!
Give verbal and non-verbal communication. Ask your receiver things that are easy to answer like faster or slower? Harder or softer? What feels good for their foreskin? Flirt with eye contact and moan to show off your enthusiasm.
Bring in sex toys. Experiment with penis rings, butt plugs, vibrators and cock sleeves. Add to your pleasure by using a sex toy on yourself too!
Stimulate surrounding erogenous zones. Does your partner like anal play? The butthole has lots of nerve endings that can be stimulated with or without penetration. Is their perineum sensitive? The space between the scrotum and the anus can be massaged to give indirect stimulation to the prostate.
Tease them. Penises can become erect even without touch - a sexy thought, a hot visual or dirty talk can inspire an erection because our erotic imagination is part of our physiological arousal. Touch, kiss and lick inner thighs, stomachs, hands on your way to give oral.
Let go of expectations. Not all penises get erect during blowjobs or like the same technique or have orgasms from oral.

Find YOUR pleasure in giving. Talk about what you like and don’t like. How do you feel about swallowing cum? Do you mind if their hands are on your head? Blowjobs don’t have to feel like a chore or something that is expected of you as part of sex. Communication opens up opportunities for adjustments to maximize pleasure for everyone.