Do you enjoy being turned on by yourself, for yourself?

Is sexy a feeling or a look for you? Both probably!

It can be tough to not judge our bodies for not looking the way that society has (narrowly) defined 'sexy'. I've practiced seeing my body in a softer way and it feels SO liberating.

I used to only think that there was a hotter version out there of me that just was waiting for this version to lose weight or meet some other commercial beauty standard. These voices are SO loud and can make it hard for you to access your own opinions and sensations.

You can build skills in turning up the volume on your inner voice, and decreasing the volume of other people's opinions. Yes, it's totally hot to be desired and feel attraction from others - but why not add your own desire in there too 🥵? I took this pic while I was getting ready for a sexy date. While i wanted it to be a tease and a turn on for this sexalicious date, I also wanted to be able to see my own hottness that I am bringing into the shared erotic space. I wanted to own my hottness and receive appreciation, instead of validation of it.

Reclaim your gaze from those narrow beauty standards and redefine attraction with more senses - what does sexy feel/taste/smell like? can you find playfulness that makes you feel sexy? Can you reach past self-judgement and into what makes you feel connected to your body and theirs?