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Journal Prompts: Fat Pleasure, Power, and Play

Use these before or after a sensual practice, during solo reflection, or with a trusted partner/community space.

Fat Liberation & Desire

• Who taught me what was attractive? What parts of that story do I reject today?
  
  

• When do I feel most powerful in my body? What am I doing? Who am I with?
  
  

• What messages did I receive about fat bodies and sex growing up? How do they still echo—and how do I want to answer back?
  
  

• Where does desirability live within me, not from outside validation?
  
  

Erotic Power & Voice

• What parts of my pleasure have I muted to make others comfortable?
  
  

• How do I want to feel during sex—not just physically, but emotionally, energetically?
  
  

• If I spoke to my body like a beloved lover, what would I say to her, them, him?
  
  

• What truths am I afraid to name in bed—and what would happen if I did?
  
  

Play, Kink, & Alter Egos

• What character or archetype would I love to become in the bedroom? What turns them on?
  
  

• If I could script my dream power dynamic, what would it feel like to surrender/control/transform?
  
  

• What part of my fatness would I want worshipped in a scene? How would it feel to receive that attention?
  
  

• How does kink let me undo stories of shame and rebuild rituals of pride?
  
  

Decolonizing Sensuality

• Where has whiteness shaped my idea of what sensual, sexual, or “classy” looks like?
  
  

• What cultural/ancestral sensual practices can I reclaim or explore?

• What does it mean to eroticize rest, softness, or slowness as an act of resistance?