Rendezvous at Rainbow Ridge 2024 TIPS AND TOY GUIDES

Hello Rendezvous friends!

I had such an amazing time with you this weekend, thank you for coming to my classes! I've pulled together some top tips and toys from the classes I taught this weekend to help you continue your kinky journeys.

Keep your kinky skill building going with on-demand webinars, upcoming kinky classes and tips from my kinky blog. 

STAY IN TOUCH! Instagram and Fetlife - @lunamatatas 

FREE Q & A July 24 for newsletter subscribers

I offer FREE virtual Q & As (with replay) to my newsletter subscribers. Subscribe here. Submit your questions anonymously, attend live or watch later. Check out previous Sex and Pleasure Q & As on my YouTube Channel. 

REPLAY INCLUDED.

ON-DEMAND WEBINARS DISCOUNT

Use code rendezvous to save 50% on any one on-demand webinar. Code expires Aug 1, 2024. I have 30+ classes on-demand, here's a few of my favs: 



 

NEW DOM SUB DIRTY TALK GUIDE!

FUN WITH FLUIDS

Questions to consider when planning your scene:

  • What is the flavour or mood of your scene?

  • What kinky activities would you like to do in this scene? BE SPECIFIC about tools and intensity.

  • Do you have the experience, anatomy knowledge and safety and risk awareness for these activities?

  • What boundaries are important to everyone? What barriers are being used?

  • How will we know the scene has begin/ended? Rituals?

  • What are the pleasure goals for each of you? (e.g. orgasms? fun? exploration? sex? sensation)

  • What is your safe system?

  • How will you know you both are having the pleasure that you want? How will you check in?

  • What aftercare do you need and are willing to provide to your your partner? How much time do you need ?

FANTASIES OF FORCE

Questions to Ask Your CNC Partner

  • What kinds of consensual-non-consent scenes turn you on?
  • What characteristics of each side of the roleplay do you find sexy in CNC?
  • What experience do you have in power exchange play?
  • What gets you off about being forced/forcing?
  • What are things that you haven’t tried but you would like to?
  • What specific CNC activities, language and vibes turn you on and turn you off?

QUESTIONS FOR VETTING:

  1. Do you trust their yes and have you heard their no

  2. Do you feel comfortable speaking up when something is not right or asking for what you want?

  3. Do you know your/your partner’s trigger responses?

  4. What are you willing to do if your boundaries are crossed?

  5. What aftercare do you need and what are you willing to give?

  6. What’s their experience with this? What’s their experience with specific activities? 

If you’re meeting someone for the first time, arrange to have a friend call you or tell your sub to do this. 

SELF-CONSENT QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER:

  • What do I know about myself + my experiences?
  • What do I need to share? What don’t I need to share? You don’t have to disclose trauma.
  • What do I need to ask to satisfy my vetting?
  • How do I keep myself ”safe”? What physical and emotional precautions am I going to take?
  • How do i respond in my body when something isn’t right? (try mirror work or body scan meditations if you’re not sure)
  • do I trust my partner will be able to communicate with me?
  • How do I avoid retraumatising someone? What do i need to know? Language to avoid, body parts, vibes
  • What to do if someone becomes triggered? Do i have techniques, do I know how to soothe them?
  • What do you notice in your body when a boundary is crossed?
  • What do you notice in your body when a boundary is respected
  • Boundaries: what are you willing to do if your boundaries are crossed?
upcoming webinar with Mandi Gray, author of Suing for Silence.
Replay included with your ticket

FACE SITTING SKILLS


 

    TOYS AND TOOLS 

    Harnesses I love:

    Thigh Harness

    Rodeoh brief style harness

    Strap-on me Jock/string style

    Aslan Leather - pelvic style harnesses

    Lube:

    Pjur Silicone or UberLube 

    SEX TOY STORAGE BAGS