Ready to strap it on for sex?
With a dildo, harness, and some lube, there are so many ways you can expand your play! Explore anal, oral, or vaginal sex with strap on sex - a creative, gender-bending, and powerfully intimate way to play. And, an important step to good strap on sex is ensuring you get the right equipment for the play you want to have.
Are you looking to explore new fantasies? Expanded possibilities for giving and receiving pleasure? Wanting to include more sex toys in your sex life?
How to choose a dildo for strap-on sex:
Do you want a phallic dildo?
Some people enjoy a strap-on fantasy with a dildo that resembles a biological penis and some people prefer non-phallic dildos. If you want a dildo that looks like a penis or has testicles, here are some options:
- Vixen Mustang Suction Cup Dildo (shop USD / CAD)
- Lifelike Lover Realistic Silicone Strap On (shop USD / CAD)
- Lifelike Lover Classic Realistic Dildo (shop USD / CAD)
Is the dildo strap-on compatible?
For a dildo to be compatible with a strap-on harness, it will need to have a flared base. Depending on the type of harness you have, you might need to consider the diameter or girth of your dildo. Some harnesses have the option to swap out the O ring to accommodate for girthier dildos, but some harnesses (especially underwear or brief style) have only one ring. You can also buy additional rings for your harness (shop USD / CAD)
Are you having vaginal or anal sex with your strap-on dildo?
For anal sex, choose a strap-on dildo that has a smoother, rounder head to make it easier to penetrate the anus. Bigger isn’t necessarily better, depending on how comfortable the person being penetrated is. Glass dildos are not great for anal strap-on play - they can be too intense and too rigid. Dual-density dildos are great for anal strap-on sex because they are softer on the outside but firm on the inside, making anal penetration smoother.
For vaginal strap-on sex, choose a dildo with a curve to maximize stimulating the inner parts of the clitoris that can be accessed through the vagina, like the G-spot.
Fabulous beginner pegging or anal sex dildos:
- Lovehoney Curved Silicone Suction Cup Dildo 5” (shop USD / CAD)
- Lovehoney Curved Silicone Suction Cup Dildo 7” (shop USD / CAD)
- Vixen Creations Goodfella (shop USD / CAD)
Here are some beginner and intermediate dildo options for vaginal strap-on sex:
- Lifelike Lover Luxe Silicone Dildo (shop USD / CAD)
- Lifelike Lover Ultrarealistic Dildo (shop USD / CAD)
- Kendall Swirly Silicone Dildo (shop USD / CAD)
Do you want a double-ended dildo?
Double-ended dildos can be used with or without a harness depending on your comfort. One end of the dildo fits inside the vagina, like the Lifelike Lover Posable Silicone Strap On (shop USD / CAD). Some double-ended dildos also vibrate, like the Lovehoney Rechargeable Vibrating Strap On (shop USD / CAD) double-ended dildo.
Choosing lube for strap-on sex
Lube creates the texture for penetration that improves both pleasure and safety. Lube is great for vaginal or anal strap-on play. Remember to re-apply after thrusting for a while. Silicone lubes are not compatible with silicone sex toys and water-based lubes can be used with any material of toy.
Try these lubes for strap-on play:
- Sliquid H2O water-based lube (shop USD / CAD)
- The Butters oil-based lube (shop CAD)
- Pjur silicone lube (shop USD / CAD)
Store your dildos and strap-on gear in style with this generously sized sex toy storage bag.
Strap-on sexual health tips
Some people experience sensitivity or pain from the bumping of a dildo base against their pubic area - check out the Sili Saddle that can attach to your dildo to create a cushion for your public bone.
Sex toys are part of your sexual health considerations too - sex toys can transmit body fluids from one person to another. Consider putting condoms on dildos to contain fluids and to make clean up easier! Shop condoms in USD / CAD.
Any body, including bodies with penises, can strap-on a dildo and play. Keep your learning going! Watch out my Strap On Skills on-demand webinar, my Pegging Skills on-demand webinar, and read my blog posts:
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